2 Corinthians 6:14(NIV)
14 Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?
This advice from 2nd Corinthians, although relative unknown to most makes a point that’s valid in all aspects of all of our lives. As shown in this passage when we couple ourselves with non-believers, not only in romantic relationships but in business, creative endeavors and even as friends. Not necessarily because it’s sinful but because it can be a real hardship and a hindrance to our walk.
None of us where always Christian. Each of us having had our path to walk, became Christians at different points in our lives. The fact is that most of us have found ourselves unevenly yoked at some point or another. When we are called and answer and wake up out of this world we often see that not all those around us are doing the same and it can be a hard and even heart wrenching thing. Specifically, when we are speaking about deep relationships, such as marriage.
I receive many questions on this topic and it is a very sad topic but I absolutely has to be clarified. Some people read this passage or hear it preached and they, knowing their spouse is not a believer, start wondering if they should leave their marriage. The see the implications of this passage and think that they are sinning by staying with their spouse or that they are angering God by doing so. I’m here to tell you that this count be further from the truth.
God created marriage not only as a union for us and the foundation for family, he did so as a mirror of his relationship with the church.
Romans 5:10 (NIV)
10 For if, while we were God’s enemies, we were reconciled to him through the death of his Son, how much more, having been reconciled, shall we be saved through his life!
God was willing to give his son to die for us while we were his enemies, this is the level of faithfulness that God is demonstrating to us. his relationship with the church, all of whom where once Gods enemy is a strong statement. It happens that one spouse may become saved while married and the other spouse may not, they may not want to or not believe or may outright reject God but we cannot forget who we are in Christ, or what our duties are as a Christian. But be of good cheer because while this can be a very hard situation to deal with there is hope.
1 Corinthians 7:12-16 (NIV)
12 To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14 For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16 How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?
While being evenly yoked is a good idea and an easier walk, an easier relationship. We can see in the way its discussed in the Bible that it is something we will all deal with in some way in our lives. It’s simply a fact of life that you will find yourself attached to a non-believer in some way. This is presented as a statement but not a commandment for this reason God is not unreasonable and he know that not only will we find ourselves in this scenario but that if we don’t… then some of these non-believer will never become believers. As this last passage explains so elegantly. Your duty is to be faithful no matter what if they choose to leave then it’s on them but never be so excited to leave because it may be by your presence and your example that they are saved. If you are a Christian, then the salvation of others is an enormous joy and part of your very purpose. It’s not always easy but most things that are right, aren’t.