Why is it so crucial to be loving? Why as a Christian should we be always trying to be more loving?

1 John 4:7-8 ESV

Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.

I have spoken to people before who tell me that they can’t understand the idea of loving our neighbors or being loving toward people they don’t know or especially toward people whom they do know and who have hurt them. They can’t understand how God would expect them to love a person that has caused them pain. I mentioned earlier that Love was a word we misunderstand, and this is what I meant.

We associate the word love with a feeling. More than that Love is a positive feeling. A sought after feeling. Because we so commonly associate love with a feeling we subconsciously connect the idea of doing something loving with the idea that it means we need to have a positive feeling otherwise it’s not love.

I have known Christian people who feel conflicted about loving things they are doing, outreaches and ministries and thinking that because they sometimes aren’t feeling excited or feeling loving about the work they’re doing for God.

I love my wife but sometimes when we aren’t together and I’m concentrating on what I’m working on, I’m not feeling, actively the love I have for her but just because I’m not feeling it doesn’t mean that its not a fact. Last summer many of us were out on the streets giving out water and food to the homeless. Everyone of us did it because we love God and because we love his people. But when its 120 degrees and it smells and you have a line of people who are trying to lie to you so they can get extra stuff (as if they needed to we were there to give it away anyway) but yes definitely we were acting in love however, even if I’m only speaking for myself, there were definitely times when we were committed to our choice to help we certainly were always feeling like going and sweating and packing up all the cars and driving and getting bothered by the cops. That’s what the most loving part of it was though. That were chose to do what was right even though it wasn’t easy. Even though it didn’t always make us happy we knew it made God happy.

Honestly if we are waiting on love to be a feeling we will never be loving people. If we limit our love to only times when we feel happy about what we are doing, then we aren’t being Christlike at all.

We read in the word that God, though his ways are above our and his thoughts above ours that he still has feelings. He gets upset and he gets sad and he gets jealous, the overwhelming power of God’s love comes when he acts loving toward us even when we are obviously hurting him, when we have turned our backs and we have disrespected him. At a time when anyone of us here would have a tear in their eye cause their feelings were hurt that when the love, not the feeling love but the act of love is the most powerful. Because you don’t feel happy about it you don’t feel positive you are simply doing as Christ did.

Romans 5:09-11 Amplified Bible (AMP)

Therefore, since we have now been justified [declared free of the guilt of sin] by His blood, [how much more certain is it that] we will be saved from the wrath of God through Him. 10 For if while we were enemies we were reconciled to God through the death of His Son, it is much more certain, having been reconciled, that we will be saved [from the consequences of sin] by His life [that is, we will be saved because Christ lives today]. 11 Not only that, but we also rejoice in God [rejoicing in His love and perfection] through our Lord Jesus Christ, through whom we have now received and enjoy our reconciliation [with God].

While we were his enemies, he gave everything for us.